Life is full of regrets. Despite these platitudes that say there won’t be, there will. What we actually can control is the type of regret. Studies have shown that when we choose not to act, the regret we feel is less overall, but lasts significantly longer. Conversely, when we do act, the regret is greater, but shorter.
As I read on FB, Tumblr, Twitter, talk to friends, hear “YOLO”, etc. it’s clear that the internet prefers the short, deep regret. What we are obsessed with avoiding is that nagging, always there, minimal regret of inaction. This obsession comes from the fact that we have listened to our grandmothers, or our fathers, or movie characters, et al talk about the one who got away. We have seen their discomfort over the fact they never spoke up, never said how they feel.